Having Less Thoughts About More Things Reduces Suffering monkey mind thought patterns

“I am trying to have less thoughts about more things”, said one of the men I am coaching.

After years of telling himself stories, labeling, judging, assuming and assigning meaning to things, he now sees that all those thoughts are not on the outside of him. They all originate on the...

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She Wants To Know That You Know You Are Okay! avoiding divorce becoming happy happy man wisdom thought patterns

The great prophet Cyndi Lauper once said, "Girls just want to have fun!" In my twenties I thought that meant they like to party. Now on the edge of fifty I understand better that the spirit of what she meant is that the feminine nature is attracted to laughter and fun and connection backed by a...

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You are, I am, We Are All Enough! thought patterns

As we go into another weekend, I am reminded of this "note to self" that I shared on Facebook back in 2019. And so, I am sharing that message again with you here on Happy Man Coaching and reminding you that, "You are, I am, we are all enough" and that though I don't know you yet, I love you and...

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Is Fear Crushing Your Dreams And Killing Your Spirit? thought patterns

As a full-time men’s coach one of the most heartbreaking things to hear from another man is, “I am too afraid to…” say that, think that, do that. As a recovering “Nice Guy” myself, I get it. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt as they say.

So...

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How your thoughts are killing her trust, respect, and love for you. avoiding divorce avoiding separation high positive regard thought patterns

Recently a Mentoring Men community member posted that he was beginning to understand the power of High Positive Regard (HSP) and how it can “change another person”. 

After being separated from his wife for several months and discovering a renewed sense of independence, he...

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What Does It Mean To Already Be Okay? thought patterns

Many times in the community we talk about being, "okay". We say things like, "you're already okay".

But when we don't feel okay, we can question that. We say, "what does that even mean? I'm okay. I don't feel okay!" What we don't recognize, because we don't feel okay, is that our natural state is...

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