Find answers to the most common questions men ask when they are looking for help with changing their lives.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
How do I start coaching with you?
The first step is for you (the prospective client) to initiate contact with me (your coach) by reaching out to me via the complimentary coaching session form.
This both informs me that you are interested and demonstrates one of the essential L.I.F.E attributes I value in a coaching client.
Once I receive your message, I will follow-up via email and schedule a time for us to get to know each other via a phone call or Zoom call. This is a no cost 60-90 minute call and there are no requests or discussions about further commitment or financial investment. We will get to know one another and learn more about what brought each of us to this moment in time.
At the conclusion of our call, we will say our goodbyes and then take a pause. This brief pause (1 week ) is for each of us to consider if a coaching relationship together should be pursued further. If that answer is yes, then you will contact me again to arrange a second call.
In this second call, also no cost and 60-90 minutes, we will discuss specific goals and objectives and determine together what we want to achieve. Once we know that, we can then agree on what investment of creativity, time, and resources will be appropriate for each of us to reach these goals.
Then we determine the date and time of our first meeting and get busy.
What does coaching look like? What takes place?
Our one-on-one meetings are very personal conversations that will flow easily and organically. Like speaking privately together as good friends who want to catch up and share deeply with one another. We will always have our goals and objectives in mind, but as informal motivations, not rigid expectations.
While respecting our schedules, we will go deep, get vulnerable, and staggeringly authentic. Our conversation will be honest, transparent, and loving, listening intently to one another. Most often our conversations will be gentle, but lovingly firm when necessary.
As we converse, I will at times invite, challenge, and call you toward a new way to think, a new way to behave, or a specific task.
Between our conversations, you will practice mindfulness about what we have been discussing, try on new ideas, practice new behaviors or thought patterns and do so as a man who is living his L.I.F.E. During that time I may also send emails with follow-up questions, insights, or recommendations that will further enhance what we’ve been discussing.
Will there be assignments?
Yes, there will be assignments, based on our conversations and what I believe will be helpful to you as needed. However, my coaching is not school, not a job, and not the military. My goal is to help men become mature, strong, independent, masculine and attractive men. To do so, each man must learn the plain truth that they must exercise the initiative, effort, and follow-through to achieve what they desire.
If a coaching client habitually does not accept and act on my inputs, I will discuss why this is and pursue whatever changes would best support our shared objectives. In some cases, this may include ending or pausing the coaching relationship. However, this is rare.
Will you keep me accountable?
The only level of accountability I provide to men is challenging them to be accountable to self.
Mature, strong, independent and attractive men must learn to be accountable primarily to self. A man who does so is naturally accountable in all other aspects of his life because he is driven by his values and non-negotiable principals.
Being accountable to others without accountability to self creates an unhealthy dynamic in which a man is driven to action by fear instead of character, integrity, and purpose.
This fear will ultimately cripple a man and its removal is a goal of my coaching.
Why isn’t coaching free?
Free is a very loaded word with many definitions. Let’s assume for a moment by “free” we mean this one:
not costing or charging anything
Coaching is not this free because it results in a man that taking on false, non-productive mindsets that associate himself and others in a way that encompasses several other definitions of “free”:
relieved from or lacking something and especially something unpleasant or burdensome
having no obligations (as to work) or commitments
availing oneself of something without stint
Men are not relieved from lacking something unpleasant and burdensome. They avail themselves to obligations and commitments readily and with vigor and strength.
Coaching is work. Hard work. It requires a substantial commitment of heart, mind, body, and time.
As a men’s coach, I help men understand their value and significance as a person. As valuable men, our substance, and what we create as men are also valuable. It costs everything to become and be a great man, not nothing.
Making ourselves and our resources available to others without commitment, stint, cost or charge devalues us and our resources as men.
How much does coaching cost?
Until a man knows the value coaching represents to himself, there isn’t yet a basis for beginning a coaching relationship.
We are men of value and significance, and therefore worthy of investment. If we were to measure coaching in “cost”, we could only say it costs everything to be such men. We are all-in or we are not-in at all. That is not a real question, is it?
Coaching is a relationship that cultivates great men and requires investment, not a commodity measured in a cost. Cultivating anything requires resources; days, hours, tears, sweat, blood, miles, calories, and yes, sometimes even dollars.
A coaching investment is best measured in value.
“What is my value and how do my investments reflect my value?”
“What do I want to accomplish and what is the value I place on accomplishing it?”
“What value do I place on others who can support me as I accomplish this?”
The real question then is: “What is the value of coaching to me?”.
When that is understood, it is simply a matter of two men coming to an agreement on the value of a coaching relationship together and what investments are required of each man to achieve be in such a relationship.
As part of my coaching process, a coaching client will take initiative and make a proposal to me that outlines what value he places on our coaching and what our investments will be. If we agree, we make those investments and work together.
Do you coach women?
I work exclusively with men. As a man myself, I am best equipped to help other men.