Happy Man Library

Recommended Reading

Journal Your Thoughts As You Read

As you read through the recommended books below keep a running journal of the thoughts that come into your mind. 

Journaling helped me recognize my thought patterns, helped me work through feelings that didn't always have the words to be understood, and helped me to let go of thoughts, beliefs, and expectations that weren't serving me.

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No More Mr. Nice Guy

Are you trying too hard to please others while neglecting your own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness? Stop seeking approval and start getting what you want in life. Have a satisfying sex life, embrace your masculinity, and form meaningful relationships with other men, to live up to your potential.


Hold Onto Your NUTs

Being a man is a full-time job, especially when you’re married or in a relationship. Hold On to Your N.U.T.s can help build a life that fulfills both you and your partner by showing you how to confirm the ideas and causes you support—your Non-negotiable, Unalterable Terms. Your N.U.T.s become the framework for how you conduct your relationships.


Way Of The Superior Man

The Way of the Superior Man shares lessons on “how a man can grow spiritually while passionately tussling with the challenges of women, work, and sexual desire,” Today, men of all ages continue to struggle with these universal challenges, and the practical insights found in this book will help each one of us to give the gifts we were born to give.


Addicted To The Monkey Mind

Most of us are caught in endless, self-sabotaging cycles of programmed ways of thinking because we’ve been taught that external factors determine our experience. By applying the skills of the Observing Mind, you will finally actualize the things you’ve been deeply longing for in your life: a substance-free lifestyle, healthy relationships, a thriving career, and a healthy body and mind.


Real Love

In Real Love, you’ll discover the difference between Imitation Love and Real Love, how to eliminate conflicts with spouses, children, parents, friends and colleagues, how to put an end to destructive “Getting” and “Protecting” behaviors, how Real Love can eliminate anger, resentment, and fear, the four steps to finding Real Love.


The 5 Love Languages

Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one.


Open Her

Open Her teaches you how to embody 7 Masculine Archetypes to engage your woman in a deeper, more passionate dance of love. Each archetype brings a power and a gift, a secret key to your woman’s love and desire. Open Her will inspire you to love your masculinity and to know the power it holds to open a woman to ever deepening states of pleasure and love.


The Masculine In Relationship

Fighting or defending yourself doesn’t resolve anything. Withdrawing into work or your phone just makes it worse. And contorting yourself to avoid conflict just kills her respect for you. The answer is to develop and live from your Masculine core. This book shows you how in an actionable three-part framework: Respond vs. React, Provide Structure, and Create Safety. This is not the old model based on control, but a modern model based in clarity and leadership.


The Power of NOW

Too often, we allow our mind to consume our present moment. And in doing so, we fail to recognize the difference between our thoughts about reality and reality itself. The Power of Now shows you that every minute you spend worrying about the future or regretting the past is a minute lost, because really all you have to live in is the present, the now, and gives you actionable strategies to start living every minute as it occurs.


She Comes First

“When it comes to pleasuring women and conversing in the language of love, cunnilingus should be every man’s native tongue,” writes clinical sexologist Ian Kerner, Ph.D. in She Comes First, a straightforward, intimate, and exuberant guide to cunnilingus.


The Unchained Man

Learn step-by-step how you can create a high-income, low-work business, as well as relationships with women based on freedom instead of rules and drama. If you’re a man who: • Doesn’t make enough money • Has trouble attracting women • Has problems maintaining quality relationships with women • Has difficulty hitting your big goals • Has work that consumes too much of your life • Has trouble staying motivated • Tends to have lots of “drama” in your relationships …then this book was written specifically for YOU.


Necessary Endings

In this insightful and deeply empathetic book, Dr. Cloud demonstrates that, when executed well, necessary endings allow us to proactively correct the bad and the broken in our lives in order to make room for the professional and personal growth we seek. However, when endings are avoided or handled poorly–as is too often the case–good opportunities may be lost, and misery repeated.


Men, Women, and Worthiness

Shame researcher, Brené Brown reveals that both men and women feel shame the same, but what triggers shame for men and women is different. As boys we learn that it's not safe to appear weak, so we convert our fear into anger so we can push passed anything that gets in our way. This may work in school, work, and some social situations, but it doesn't work in intimate relationships. This book drags shame into the light.



When you think of confidence, you might automatically imagine high profile business leaders, high paid athletes, famous celebrities, or other successful people who are accomplished professionally, but in this book Barbara De Angelis Ph.D. defines confidence in three key areas of life as behavioral, emotional, and spiritual confidence. Understanding and mastering confidence in these areas is life changing.


Being The Strong Man A Woman Wants

 Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants shares insights about being a man that many men today were not taught. Challenging confusing messages of the past 40 years, it explains why many relationships today are not working and what a man can do on his own to make things better with the woman in his life.


The Man’s Guide To Women

Based on 40 years of research, The Man’s Guide to Women unlocks the mystery of how to attract, satisfy, and succeed with a woman for a lifetime. For the first time ever, there is a science-based answer to the age-old question: What do women really want in a man?


I Hear You

In this three-hour, conversational listen, you'll discover the whats, whys, and hows of one of the most valuable (yet surprisingly little-known) communication skills - validation.

Whether you're looking to improve your relationship with your spouse, navigate difficult conversations at work, or connect on a deeper level with friends and family, this book delivers simple, practical, proven techniques for improving any relationship in your life.


The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck

There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.


The Relationship Handbook

Unlike most relationship counselors, Dr. Pransky doesn't recommend "working" on a relationship. In this book he challenges everything you thought you knew about how to be happy with your partner. Each chapter exposes a popular, but destructive, misconception about relationships and provides a new understanding that can give troubled couples the fresh start they need.


Beyond Success & Failure: Ways To Self-Reliance and Maturity

Beyond Success & Failure helps you to find your direction and your ability to handle any and all confronting problems.

Learn to find your center of gravity inside yourself and begin to know the satisfaction that flows from using your own talents and living as a responsible adult.



Understanding Women

After more than a decade of helping women understand men, Alison Armstrong has unraveled the complexities of women. With this audio workshop, you will: Be surprised by the reason women are compelled to multitask. Note which conversational details need remembering and which don't. Discover the true source of women's jealousy and competitive behavior. Learn to repair hurt feelings and save you both from the "Rage Monster"...and much more!


The Amazing Development of Men

Making sense of men's evolution... The stages of development describe the lifelong process by which a man's sense of self evolves. Predictable and unavoidable, these stages determine what men live for and what they can't live without. Understanding the differences between knights, princes, and kings is critical for success in romantic relationships, raising sons, and working effectively with men.


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