Do You Have Healthy Boundaries?
Happy Sunday brother!
What is your morning routine?
Do you journal? Do you read? Do you drink coffee and stare quietly into the abyss until your brain starts working?
If you don’t journal, I highly recommend starting.
Journaling is one of the most powerful ways to accelerate your personal development and turn your current situation around. Message me if you need help getting started.
Personally I look forward to a hot homemade latte every morning while I read from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie.
The book is a collection of daily messages around setting boundaries, self-care, self love, self acceptance, vulnerability, fear, and all things related to recovery and letting go of stinkin’ thinkin’.
Today’s message is on the importance of setting boundaries and the benefits of “learning to really love and value ourselves” in this way.
This quote stood out to me this morning:
“There’s something magical about reaching that point of becoming ready to set a limit. We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too. Things change, not because we’re controlling others, but because we’ve changed.”
Often when I’m coaching a man the topic of boundaries come up. Usually he doesn’t have boundaries and he doesn’t know how to set them.
Through our conversations it becomes clear to him that boundaries are necessary to avoid people pleasing behaviors, rebuild his self-trust, and exercise self-care. Boundaries also provide the positive structure people in his life need to respect him and feel safe with him.
“We know we mean what we say; others take us seriously too.”
Boundaries aren’t about controlling others. They are about being healthy and knowing for ourselves what we will do or won’t do, what we will accept or won’t accept. They are about knowing what we think, what we believe, and how we will respond if our boundaries are crossed.
Do you have boundaries? Share them in the comments below.f you don’t have a morning routine, I highly recommend Beattie’s book.
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Read the daily messages over coffee and then let that be the seed for your morning journaling, which I will say more about in an upcoming post.
Having a morning routine of reading and journaling has been an important part of my own personal journey from unhappy nice guy to a calm, confident, happy man.
If you don’t have boundaries, where could you benefit from setting some limits or letting go of some things you really don’t want to do?
If you want help with getting started, message me and let’s talk about what you value and which areas of your life you would like to create some healthy boundaries.
I didn’t understand boundaries in the beginning and it helped me to talk with some who was already doing it with positive results.
Happy Man Coach & Freedom Fighter