Get The Love, Respect, and Appreciation You Desire From Your Wife
So you want your wife to respect, appreciate, and love you, but are you giving yourself what you are asking someone else to give you?
Ask yourself why should someone else respect, appreciate and love you more than you love yourself? Logically it doesn’t make sense.
So let me start with a simple invitation: Stop tearing yourself down with your inner self-talk.
You know exactly what I mean. Those little jabs you throw at yourself—calling yourself weak, whiny, or broken.
That quiet inner voice that keeps score of your shortcomings. The one that whispers things you’d never dare say to someone you love.
It’s one thing to tell the truth about where we are in life, but self-criticism isn’t the truth—it’s punishment.
It’s unloving, disappointed, and often downright cruel. And here’s the kicker: We long for others to love us, accept us, respect us… yet we won’t even do that for ourselves.
Start with You
If we want connection, peace, and appreciation from others, we have to start by giving it to ourselves first. That means catching ourselves in the act of self-criticism and saying, Nope. I’m not doing that anymore.
Instead, say:
“I’m in the process of becoming.”
“I’m doing my best.”
“This is where I am right now—and that’s okay.”
This shift is one of the simplest but most powerful acts of self-care: stop criticizing yourself.
The Noise Inside
Another trap we fall into is the mental noise—those imaginary conversations and scenarios we play out in our heads. The “if they say this, then I’ll say that” game. It spins us up, gets us anxious, and robs us of peace.
And then we wonder why we can’t fall asleep at night.
That noise? You’re doing that to you. Not them. Not life. You.
So what do we do?
We say, Stop. I’m not going there. Every single time. Yes, it takes practice—reps. But I promise, if you consistently interrupt those spinning thoughts, your mind will get quieter.
Love Begins With Self-Acceptance
We often think we need someone else to validate our worth. But here’s the truth: self-acceptance is the bedrock of self-love. It’s how we demonstrate our value to ourselves.
Only when we’re full and whole can we offer love to others without expecting them to fill a gap in us.
So remember:
Stop criticizing yourself. You want love, respect, appreciation? Be the first to give it to you.
Shut down the noisy brain. The moment you become aware of the mind spiraling—pause. Breathe. Stop. Repeat as needed.
Be the first in line for your own love and care. You deserve it.
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Much love brother,
Charlie McKeever
Your Happy Man Coach
