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In this video, I want to dive into a topic close to my heart—the powerful programming of music, especially the words in the songs we grow up with.

Let me take you on a journey through my childhood and show you how music profoundly influenced my thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. And then, I'd love to hear your story too.

A Childhood Wrapped in Country Melodies

Growing up, my household was all about country music. My parents were devoted fans, and that's pretty much all we listened to. I vividly remember only a brief stint with a babysitter who dared to play rock and roll. That was my first taste of a different musical world, and it left quite an impression on me.

But it wasn't long before I was back to the familiar twang of country tunes, because rock and roll was deemed too dangerous—something about concerts where people got injured and the devil's influence, according to the news and my parents.

The Messages in the Music

Looking back, it's fascinating to see how those country songs shaped my early views. The melodies were catchy, and the beats were comforting, but the lyrics were filled with stories of infidelity, heartbreak, and a sense of not being good enough.

They told tales of love lost, meaning found only in another person, and an overwhelming sense of scarcity and lack. As a kid, I soaked up these messages without even realizing it.

Realizations in Adulthood

Fast forward to my adult years, and I embarked on a journey of self-discovery and healing. Part of that process involved revisiting those old songs I once loved. I was shocked to realize just how unhealthy those messages were.

They perpetuated ideas like "I'm not whole without you," "You're my everything," and an all-consuming, suffocating love that left no room for individuality or personal growth. These messages had subtly influenced my thoughts and fears, making me worry unnecessarily about my own relationships and self-worth.

Breaking Free from Unhealthy Narratives

Understanding these patterns was crucial for me. It was like realizing I had been drinking water with a drop of poison all along—something seemingly harmless yet detrimental in the long run.

A wise man once asked me, "How much poo do you want in your drinking water?" It was a humorous but powerful analogy.

Our minds are like that clean drinking water, and we must be vigilant about what we allow to contaminate it.

Choosing Conscious Consumption

This realization led me to a conscious choice: to no longer let those unhealthy narratives dictate my life. I decided to become more mindful of the messages I consume, be it from music, movies, or any form of media.

I wanted to choose beliefs and stories that empower and uplift me rather than those that instill fear and inadequacy.

An Invitation to Reflect

This brings me to you, my friend. What stories have you adopted from the music and media you grew up with? Are they serving you well, or are they holding you back? I encourage you to reflect on these questions and challenge any beliefs that no longer serve your growth and happiness.

If you're interested in diving deeper into this topic, I'd love to hear your story and help you navigate your journey.

Schedule a phone call with me. Let's explore your beliefs and the rules you've created for yourself. Together, we can uncover insights and resources to help you craft a life that's true to who you are.

Schedule a free coaching call with me to share your story and discuss what you'd like be different in your relationships and life.

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Much love, brother,

Charlie McKeever
Your Happy Man Coach

"The very best thing you can do for the whole world is to make the most of yourself." – Wallace D. Wattles, 1903

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